I love you. I love. Love. I guess I’m breaking it down as far as it can go. How you love is the lesson. It can be done alone or with a partner. Most people try to find it fervently with a partner. As if finding that partner, you can become whole, be completed, or make the world right by simply being with them. Most of us project aspects of ourselves and our parents onto our beloved and get a limited overstanding - or never get to know who they really are. Our primary agenda, whether we admit it or not, is to mold the other person to our own preexisting idea of a mate or fantasy.
Adolescent love affairs begin with a period of ecstasy in which everything is heavenly.
Soon come, is the let down, the mutual perception that the other is not perfect after all. We try to mold that person but it just doesn’t work. We have to stay in our own heart, if we want to feel the feeling of love. When we leave our own hearts and try to change the other, we feel the pain. If that person is not up to par, which they can never fully be, we blame it on them or even ourselves.
Before soul initiation, the ego feels a genuine and inconsolable loneliness and longing. It does really need to be completed by something. But it cannot be completed by a romantic relationship with another. Only the soul, the divine lover, completes the ego and allows it to feel fittingly partnered.
The adolescent has nothing to do but project all of its longing onto someone other than themselves. Loneliness continuously fuels the desire for love affairs. Until it discovers an alternative, it will keep seeking completion in that way and failing.
Human romance can deepen the sacred marriage between the ego and soul, but it is not a substitute.
A youthful approach to love is not itself the problem; the problem is the rarity of what comes next in terms of development. Can we develop a mature way of engaging a lover that has a deeper, more spiritual, sustainable, and even sexier set of possibilities that encourage and support soul development?
Our egoistic actions are deeply rooted and our romantic fantasies do not die easily.
As soon as I let go of this fantasy, and thank all my relationships for showing me myself, I begin to experience myself as whole already, fully eligible to be in love with the world either alone or partnered. I am less likely to project myself upon others.
In the mystery of love, as we learn to love another truly, we meet the beloved of our own soul through the eyes of another.
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LOVE it! :)
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